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Overcoming Obstacles

Why friendships fall apart after severe illness or injury

It is terrifyingly easy to become socially isolated after a serious injury or illness.  It doesn’t happen to all people, as there are a lot of variables. The quality of the friends that you have before your trauma is one of those important details that will affect your friendships post-injury.  Friendships and social interaction are vital for everyone’s mental health, so maintaining connections with others is a very important part of your healing process. Having a chronic or severe illness or injury is pretty much guaranteed to break up most of the patterns and cycles in your life, including disrupting…

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Dealing with Doctors

Internal Physical Therapy: Should I see a pelvic floor physical therapist?

For both urge and stress incontinence, the best treatment is actually physical therapy.  You’ll probably have to do some digging, but there are physical therapists(many of them are DPT’s(doctors of physical therapy) as opposed to having a master’s in physical therapy) out there who focus in on pelvic floor health and rehabilitation.  Do some searching with keywords like ‘urinary incontinence’ or ‘pelvic floor dysfunction’ with ‘physical therapy’ and toss in your county, town, or zip code, and you’re likely to find some options. You can also search for them using your insurance company’s website.  If you are at all uncertain,…

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Overcoming Obstacles

Stop mental health stigma!

This month is mental health awareness month! In honor of that, I intend to make sure that my posts for the month have more of a mental health focus. Today, I want to talk about the stigma that is placed on mental health, and what we can do to fight it off. So what is stigma? Stigma is a mark of disgrace placed upon a particular quality, circumstance, or person. Stigma occurs when a dominant or powerful part of a community(or a very large percentage of the community) decides that some particular difference is morally corrupt, unhealthy or otherwise bad.…

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Dealing with Doctors

Seeing a specialist: getting the most out of your appointment

When trying to get diagnosed, you are often told your next step is seeing a specialist.  This is an indicator that your GP can’t easily figure out what’s going on, and wants you to see a doctor who focuses in on whatever system of yours seems out of whack.  It’s not an indicator of horrible things, necessarily, it simply is the common next step in either being properly diagnosed(learning what condition you have) or to make sure you are getting the best possible treatment for your condition.  Some specialists are very good, patient, knowledgeable, and open to learning new things.…

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Overcoming Obstacles

I have to pee all the time! Urinary urgency and incontinence

Roughly one in three women will experience urgency(that desperate feeling of needing to pee right now) or incontinence(not being able to keep the pee in until reaching the toilet) at some point in her life.  It is more frequent later in life or shortly after childbirth, but it can hit any woman at any age. In some cases, it’s a very short-lived issue, such as urgency caused by a urinary tract infection.  In other cases, it can be a longer-lasting issue(about one-third of women have some form of urgency issue, usually stress incontinence, after vaginal childbirth). That I-need-to-pee-NOW feeling is…

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Strategizing for success

Self-care with FND: 8 ways you can help yourself #letstalkfnd

Today, in celebration of FND Awareness Day, I want to focus on my fellow FNDers.  For anybody wanting more details on what FND is and how it works, here is my guest-post about FND to promote awareness.  In a nutshell, Functional Neurological Disorder is a neurological condition where stress(especially emotional stress) is expressed in very physical ways(like sudden movement, short-term paralysis, non-epileptic seizures, pain, or difficulties in thinking or information processing).  While self-care is always vital, with FND, self-care is one of the best forms of symptom management. This post is about self-care with FND.  All people are better off…

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Dealing with Doctors

Should I see a psychologist?

Psychologists treat psychological concerns or issues through conversation, observing your thoughts and actions, and helping you think through your reactions to things in your life.  They meet with their patients regularly, and it is an emotionally intimate relationship. They do not require a specific diagnosis but instead work with their clients to help them be more comfortable with themselves and others.  If you are asking yourself ‘should I see a psychologist?’, the answer is yes!  Just about anyone could benefit from a good therapy session, and psychologists often have other psychologists that they see to help themselves maintain a healthy…

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Dealing with Doctors

Should I see a psychiatrist?

A psychiatrist manages medication for mental-health concerns – so they are who you go to for medication prescriptions and for help and support in finding the right medication and dosage.   What to expect Usually visits with a psychiatrist are relatively short(15-30 minutes) and happen somewhat infrequently(monthly or several times a year). The psychiatrist needs to know how you react to medications, your overall state of mind, and your medication/treatment history. They simply need to be professionals who listen to your history, respect your perspective on medications, understand your condition, and listen when you tell them about reactions and symptoms.…

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Plan your way to easier and tastier meals!

Over 30% of households with a working-age disabled adult who cannot work do not regularly have enough food to meet their basic nutritional needs.  Think about that! Those of us who do have enough to eat need to pause and be grateful that how to prepare foods is an issue for us! And for those of us who are in that unstable food position, my heart goes out to you.  I plan on writing about additional food resources in a future entry. Today, though I want to talk you through how to plan your way to easier and tastier meals.…

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Strategizing for success

Pre-planning to get the most out of your life!

Today, I want to talk to you about the concept of pre-planning.  Pre-planning is a way to help yourself think through what an activity will be like, so you can be as prepared as possible, and make the absolute most of your time.  If you’re like me and worry about not making it through things you want to do, pre-planning can likely help you make the best of anything you want or need to do. Let me walk you through an example. Problems getting to the doctor’s My neurologist was at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital in New York.  I live in…

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